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Dear Eric: Can you offer any advice about a good friend who lets her dog jump in my pool? I have an inground vinyl liner pool so one concern is the dog could damage the liner with its nails or teeth. And my friend does not have the funds to replace the liner if it were damaged, nor would she probably offer.

Her dog chewed apart one of my pool ...Read more

Dear Eric: I'm close friends with one of my sisters-in-law but not the other, Betty. Betty and I used to be close until jealousy came between us. She was jealous that her brother and I were the first to get married, have kids and reach other milestones. She is also very sensitive, so I've felt like I need to walk on eggshells, especially after ...Read more

Dear Eric: My kiddo is hardworking, makes friends everywhere and is working on her

third advanced degree. She is also working full time and volunteers at a shelter and her professional organization. She owns her house. My problem is her husband. He is not good enough for her.

He has also been working on an advanced degree that took him five ...Read more

Dear Eric: I am a 55-year-old single female. I often get asked out on dates with men that I am not interested in. I recently met a man, and we have been going on great dates. I really enjoyed hanging out with him until his sister-in-law came to me and said things like, “don't like him; don't catch feelings for him. Just have fun with him and ...Read more

Dear Eric: Five years ago, on Mother’s Day, my adult son suddenly cut me out of his life. He told me he no longer wanted contact because he didn’t like the way he was raised and considered me a negative presence. I didn’t agree with his reasons, but I respected his choice. I’ve honored his no-contact request ever since.

I’ve never ...Read more

Dear Eric: I’ve been married for a few decades to someone who lacks self-awareness about the impact of his choice not to shower for several days, sometimes more than a week. He doesn’t even shower after he works out/runs. He also wears the same underwear for days at a time.

When I tell him he smells he says he can’t smell anything. ...Read more

Dear Eric: My daughter got married a year ago and decided to have a wedding with immediate family members only due to the huge family on the groom's side (the wedding was still about 100 people). It was planned on the West Coast (we are on the East Coast).

Some of my friends sent them a gift, knowing why they were not invited but three of my ...Read more

Dear Eric: My husband and I just turned 80. We are in good health but began talking about estate planning. We each have two children from previous marriages, and at first this was an easy fix. After considering donating to nonprofits, we thought the rest of our assets would be equally divided among our children.

Now, the situation: Although my ...Read more

Dear Eric: One of my two daughters is getting married in a very small ceremony in August. It so happens to be on Labor Day weekend. Her sister and her fiancé's sister are planning a brunch the following day to celebrate this union.

My own sister lives in Florida. When I emailed her (and our brothers) about this event, she responded immediately...Read more

Dear Eric: My son will soon be turning 13, as will my niece. They were born a week apart. I usually host a family pool party for my son's birthday, but my brother and his wife do not arrange a family party for their daughter. (They also have a nice yard with a pool.).

Instead, they have a party for her and her friends without inviting family. ...Read more

Dear Eric: The president of my religious institution is, in my view, a fine leader and a rotten speaker.

I have participated in a number of meetings he has led and am driven crazy by the number of instances of "you know," "kind of" and asking "right?" in the middle of a statement. His speech is riddled with these. In the most recent gathering, ...Read more

Dear Eric: My sister-in-law made quilts for two of her nieces. They unwrapped them to oohs, aahs and applause on Christmas Eve at my house. My daughter did not receive a gift. I sent a polite email to sister-in-law explaining that my daughter was disappointed. I received a snail mail reply that included a gift certificate and a note. Sister-in-...Read more

Dear Eric: My younger brother "Mick" has been a heavy beer drinker for at least three decades with a high-stress career.

When he retired, his drinking escalated. He received a DUI which resulted in court-ordered mandatory visits at a local AA meeting for one year. The court also had a blow-and-go breathalyzer installed in his truck for three ...Read more

Dear Eric: I'm a happily married woman who talks to a gay guy that frequently walks in my neighborhood. We have so much in common. I recently gave him some plants from my garden, and we've texted a bit. Simply put, I enjoy his company. He seems receptive to starting a friendship with me. He said I could stop by his house sometime to chat. I ...Read more

Dear Eric: My coworker has been wearing sleeveless summer tops and dresses recently. She looks so cute in all of her outfits. Although her daily wear slams, it is her hairy armpits that causes everyone in the workplace to cringe. The armpit hair is not straight. It is short and kinky which is a turn off to me.

Her job description calls for her ...Read more

Dear Eric: My hubby and I are in our late 60s. Starting in our 30s, we had a large group of friends, with whom we spent many fun weekends together. It was so much fun, and we all treasure those days. All wonderful people, or so we thought.

A few years ago, it came out that one of our dearest friends had an affair with another dear friend’s ...Read more

Dear Eric: As kids we went to the cemeteries with our parents and grandparents every year before Memorial Day. There are three cemeteries with family members, and I remember all of us working on each plot every year – planting flowers, digging, weeding then going out for lunch. All this takes preparation then daily/weekly care.

Now our ...Read more

Dear Eric: I am a woman in my 60s with six siblings. Our parents are in their early 90s and have raised us to be thoughtful and respectful. Many of my siblings are female and have always gotten along famously, traveling together on girls’ trips and seeing each other for holidays and family celebrations.

In the past few years, it seems I’ve ...Read more

Dear Eric: I have a good friend with whom I get together maybe twice a month or so. We disagree politically, sometimes passionately, but always end our conversation by telling each other that we are still friends and still love and respect each other.

A few months ago, her daughter got engaged, and when my friend shared this news, she said that...Read more

Dear Eric: Summer months are upon us and most students will soon be heading home from college for their vacations, except mine. Every summer since starting college they have worked a summer job that required them to live on-site, a couple hours’ drive away from home.

This year, because that seasonal position was eliminated, they have found a ...Read more